Things You Need to Know About Flower Girl Duty
There are so many wedding traditions all over the world that you can choose to feature at your wedding. Choosing the traditions you wish to include is an important part of the planning process, considering that it will determine the pace of the wedding, the cost and the overall feel. One of those traditions (and possibly the sweetest one) is a flower girl, who’ll walk in front of you down the aisle. But this seemingly simple task is actually a lot more than it seems at first glance. So, to make sure you know how to handle your precious little helper, here are all the things you should consider:
Your flower girl, firstly, doesn’t have to be a girl, nor do you have to go with only one kid. You can have several flower girls, or both flower girls and boys, in any combination you want. It’s your wedding, and you make the rules, so go with whomever you feel would fit the role best. It can be your sibling, niece or your best friend’s child. When thinking about the perfect person for the role, don’t just think about who will look the cutest in a dress, but also the child’s personality. If they are naturally shy and don’t like being in the center of attention, then they might not be the perfect person for the job. If you spend a lot of time with them, you can ask their parents whether they would be fit for the role – and ask for their consent while you’re there.
Put together the look
You are the one who is choosing how the flower girl will look like, but you have to take a few things into consideration: firstly, if you are not the one covering the costs of the dress and the accessories, you have to talk to her parents about the budget. On the other hand, even if you are the one paying for the dress, you have to consult the parents and see if they think that the dress you chose is appropriate. A good idea is to check out flower girl dresses together, to make sure you are all on the same page. You should find a dress that looks cute and innocent, and that will match the style you are going with for yourself and your bridesmaids. As far as the main accessory – the basket – is concerned, you can choose to have something simple, or decorated, with real petals or fake ones. Also, you can omit the basket completely and have her carry a bouquet, a sign or just let her happily walk down the aisle empty-handed.
Kids will be kids
While your mini-bridesmaid might be getting ready and spending quite some time with the bridal squad, you can’t forget that they’re still just a kid, and you have to accommodate that. Ideally, her mom should be one of the bridesmaids, so you don’t have to worry about having someone to look after her, or her parents having to accompany the bridal party everywhere. If she’s getting ready with the rest of the group, you need to make sure she is in a good mood. This means providing her with entertainment such as cartoons, toys, coloring books or anything else you can think of. You also need to make sure that she’s not hungry or thirsty, but also keep in mind that whatever you give her should be sealed in a spill-proof cup and that the food is mess-free, to avoid getting it on her – or anyone else’s – dress. Lastly, you need to set your expectations low. They are just children, which means you can’t expect too much from them. If they decide that they are done after walking only half way down the aisle, and they just sit there, or start crying, or suddenly decide to go back – you have to be prepared to deal with that. However, ideally, you won’t be the one dealing with it.
Having a flower girl will definitely bring a smile to all of your guests and make your wedding that much sweeter. It is also a great way for you to strengthen your relationship with an important child in your life, by showing them that you trust them and want them to be a part of your life.